In this workshop Meg-John explores the different forms of non/monogamy that have emerged in recent years, including swinging, open relationships, monogamish relationships, and polyamory. We will consider the different reasons for people opening up their relationships, and the various different ways in which they have done this (which might work for different people, and at different times). Particularly we'll focus on where you are on a continuum of sexual fidelity and one of emotional fidelity, and what this means for your relationships. We'll consider the kinds of contracts that people do, and don't, use in their relationships, and how these work. We'll discuss communication levels that people prefer, and how to talk about these possibilities with partners and others in our lives. Finally we'll reflect on how our relationship structures might relate to our wider values and spiritual and political beliefs, and useful practices to bring into our relationships.
Dr. Meg John Barker is a public engagement academic specialising in sex and relationships. Meg-John is a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and has published many academic books and papers on topics including non-monogamous relationships, sadomasochism, counselling, and mindfulness, as well as co-editing the journal Psychology & Sexuality. They were the lead author of The Bisexuality Report – which has informed UK policy and practice around bisexuality. They are involved in running many public events on sexuality and relationships, including Sense about Sex, Critical Sexology, and Gender & Sexuality Talks. Meg-John is also a UKCP accredited therapist working with gender and sexually diverse clients. Their 2013 book Rewriting the Rules is a friendly guide to love, sex and relationships.